My heart goes out to you. The parent-child relationship leaves an indelible mark on our soul. My mother brought stability to our Alcoholic’s home. She fiercely loved her three boys. I believe my father loved us but struggled with his own demons and alcoholism. Unfortunately, some of our most toxic relationships are with the family. Perhaps cutting ties is best for you and nothing in which you should feel guilty over. You said it, How do you help someone who doesn’t want it. I wish you well my friend and hope for your healing. Emotional healing can be a lifelong process. I still stumble over things long-buried in which I thought I had healed.